I don’t usually whinge it’s a trait that is not part of my character. I tend to deal with what’s happening and move on. There is no point on dwelling or wallowing on situations or circumstances you cannot control. However, I am frustrated and ticked off by the cards Fate has dealt my family. It seems each time a good event occurs we are brought down by unpleasant news. This is what happened just over the Easter long weekend.
We went away for the weekend, a break we desperately needed. It was great. We spent a day driving to funky art galleries, ate lunch in a little café on an olive grove where they press and sell their own oil and finished at a winery. Each day we took a walk along the beach, the water beautiful and calm, we even saw dolphins a few kilometres from the shore. The sunsets were magnificent and overall a relaxing weekend. We returned home, checked messages and learned our grandmother was rushed to hospital earlier that day. Suffice to say, she has stabilised and now it’s a day to day monitoring.
This wasn’t a one off situation, it has been a culmination of factors. Since the start of the 21st century, we’ve been dealing with one hurdle after another. I know there are many others worse off but I wonder how much one family has to cope with? What I don’t understand is why? What is the lesson the Universe is trying to teach us? I understand each person has their journey in this life yet there seems to be a catalyst, a harbinger ready to take you down. Are we on trial for actions of the past?
I’m not a doom and gloom person, I leave the pessimism to others. I survived four car accidents and depression. Don’t get me wrong, I still get dark thoughts, especially on days where I am feeling overwhelmed or not in the best head space. I tend not let it define me. I refuse to let it consume me. But when the hits keep coming and you know you’re a good person and your family is as well, you ask why does the awful stuff keep happening?
I am not writing this to garner sympathy, that’s not my intent, I just needed to vent. But if anyone can make sense of the whys, I’d love to hear from you. You may be wiser than I and have a better understanding why the Universe sets us these ordeals.
Thank you for tuning in and reading.
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“The universe has no mind, no feelings, and no personality, so it doesn’t do things in order to either hurt or please you. Bad things happen because things happen.”
– Dr. Richard Dawkins, The Magic of Reality (2011)
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That’s a fair assessment. I’ll take it on the chin and move on.
cheers Daniel.
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I hope things start going better from now on.
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Thanks Dan. I know sad days are yet to come but there’s always the good to balance it all.
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Having just lost my grandmother two weeks ago today, I understand how you feel. I.find it hard to accept it when good people have to suffer for no reason. I am glad to hear your grandmother is doing better and I hope more hardship falls on you or your family.
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Hi Andrea, I am so sorry for your loss and thank you for taking the time to comment. It is difficult and when I feel less frustrated and angry, I will be more accepting.
Thank you
Luciana
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I meant NO more hardship! Sorry for the typo.
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I read between the lines ;D All good Andrea.
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Hi Luc sorry to hear you are battling these trials. I can see no rhyme or reason for these happenings. Once I thought maybe they make you stronger & prepare you for what is still to come. Now I think it is just part of the journey. Shitty sometimes. Glorious other times.
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Thanks Bev, it is quite the journey to say the least. I guess its part of life and one must ride the waves, the good and the bad.
x Luc
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Come on Luc, you are an explorer and researcher, so chin up please…at the risk of sounding a little ponderous, I may add there is nothing like a problem-free state for anyone, anywhere. We have problems, so we have life. Like to be without challenges and sorrows? You have to be dead, as death is the only blank state. Like to live? Then embrace the white, black and grey world of happiness, sorrows and challenges, where night follows day and seasons change giving the warmth of sunshine, colours of spring, barrenness of autumn, and freezing cold of winter. We are all in this together, Luc, so cheers to the vibrancy of life…
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Challenges I don’t have an issue with, its the ongoing barrages one has to contend with. But you are right, there is no problem-free life, we all have them to a lesser or greater degree. It just gets tiring when its a constant battle. I will bundle up and face the onslaught!
Thank you Raj for the pep talk 😀
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Hang in there, Luciana. As I’ve found in our own family’s tragedies these past months, these things make us stronger. Perhaps that’s the gods’ intent? It seems apt for us to think of the trials of many of the heroes in the mythology about which we so often write. Sadness is balanced by joy, over and over. I suppose it is our trial to learn these rhythms of life. I don’t know for sure…
One thing that helped me was to write through the sadness, and much of the time, doing that helped me to make more sense of it.
Thoughts and good wishes to you. 🙂
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I love that Adam, “the trials of many of the heroes in mythology”. You are so right, we are echoing the ordeals the mythologies trying to teaching us. I just watched a documentary on gods and goddesses and their aspects on each facet of life and your comment ties in beautifully and aptly.
I am sorry to hear about your loss and will follow in your stead.
Thank you 😀
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Well, as the old saying goes, “It rains on the just and the unjust alike.” I have asked the same question many times. I have never found a definite answer. But for myself, I find comfort in those around me. It is true, we are all in this together,and there is no one without problems. Hang in there…this, too, shall pass. Better days are coming, believe it!
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Thank you Susan! It will pass, just frustrated by it all. I guess we’re not meant to have the answers, otherwise we would not strive to work hard and learn from these experiences.
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Luciana, I believe that we have to look at the long-term plan of the universe; you are being tested and so you will get through it and learn from the troubles you face now. In the end, you will be stronger than ever! Keep your positivity high and keep reaching high as you have so many good times ahead xo
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Thank you Christy 😀
I thought I had understood the lessons yet it seems the universe has many more in store. I will keep positive and charge ahead. xo
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I hope that blogging about the difficult time did help you. Sometimes journaling can also do wonders xo Hugs
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I did start that last year and then well, things got hectic. I must go back to it. Thank you for reminding me Christy 😀 xo
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My dear Luciana,
Universally, people ask the very same rhetorical question of why good people have to suffer. But would having the answer really be a good thing? If we did, we might not be bothered by the cries of child who’s hungry or abused, or feel sorrow for those who are dying, or neglected because we’d understand why and perhaps just look the other way. And what would be worse than suffering would be living an existence without emotions and feelings, as this is what makes us human.
Sometimes suffering helps us to put our lives in perspective. Maybe bad things happen to good people because we are supposed to channel this injustice into something good, and try and do something to eradicate it.
Unfortunately, there are no real answers, because to have the answer to this universal questioning of why we suffer, would mean we’d be all powerful, when in reality, we are mere mortals.
Sending out vibes of happiness and well-being to you… xxx
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Ciao Bella,
I am going to cut and paste what you have written, print it out and post it onto my pin board. Humans has suffered since the dawn of time and it will always be this way. We are here to learn the lessons, regardless of the difficulties.
Thank you Rosary xxx
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Luciana, I don’t have any awesome words of wisdom but I do have loads and loads of hugs for you and your family. To say “I’ll pray for you” is the absolute biggest cliche anyone can belch out as a response these days but it’s the sincerest truth that you’ll be in mine. On that note, don’t let any otherwise well-meaning person try to tell you that bad things happen as a result of not being “good enough”, that’s absolute rubbish. But even when the rain comes and I know sometimes it feels like it’s pouring, just remember that the sun will always come out again.
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Thank you Julie, that is so lovely and I am very grateful for your words, hugs and prayers.
Some days do seem darker than others but as you’ve mention, the sun will always shine again. And I certainly will look forward and know good things are to come.
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If I had the grand answer to your question, I would probably be a deity myself. Sometimes, trouble comes not only in threes, but sixes and twenties, and…. And your thoughts and desire to know why are absolutely universal. I think the best we can do is share our feelings and take comfort from the love and support of family and friends around us. I hope the tide will turn for you soon.
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I am a very private person and tend not to share personal information, but with all that has happened and still ongoing, I needed an outlet. I am so grateful to you and the others who’ve commented. Your words have helped enormously and just knowing what a wonderful group of people I have met via the blogging world has made me much richer.
Thank you JM, I know you’ve had your fair share of problems too.
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Hi Luciana,
Thank you for sharing your thoughts about about some of the difficult situations you have been facing. I lost a beautiful daughter-in-law last year to cancer last year. She left behind two of my grandsons and my son. There is no rhyme or reason why these events happen. If anything, it emphasizes the need to cherish every moment with your family and to pursue your passion. You have made a positive impact through your blog and the wonderful stories you have published. Please know my thoughts are with you. Take care.
Best wishes,
Linnea
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Hi Linnea,
I am so sorry to hear about your loss, it must have been and still difficult to live with. You are absolutely right, we must cherish each day we have and let those we love know it.
Your words warmed my heart, thank you for the lovely compliment.
Warmest wishes
Luciana
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