The characters I’ve listed are more like anti-heroines, females who may have started out with good or bad intentions and depending on their circumstances, made changes to adapt to the situation. The interesting aspect about these characters is you really want to dislike them but you don’t. Yes, they are flawed, who isn’t yet they have a vulnerability that draws you. It may be their past that came back to haunt them; a predicament that forced them to make a decision; or they are a product of their socio-economic environment.
I was almost going to call this post ‘Self Actualisation’ and in some ways it is however, the current title is more apt. I remember at university studying child psychology and learning about Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs, of which ‘self actualisation’ is at top of the five stages of need. Simply, it is realising your personal potential and achieving self-fulfilment. I understood this in principal and thought I had achieved this, but truthfully always felt something was lacking. I wasn’t quite there yet as it turns out.
Do you ever wonder whether some days you’re on the right path and doing what you should be? I did and all it took strangely enough, was a temporary position I was in. You don’t know you are going to miss something until its taken from you. I made a conscious decision to keep writing when I got home from work. I did try but it just didn’t work for me. I know lots of people do it and manage it well, but I’m not one of those individuals. My brain doesn’t function well when tired.
The revelation happened when the job was coming to the end and work colleagues were asking what my intentions were when I finished. The answer was simple and honest. I miss writing and will be focussing on finishing my short story with the plan to get it published by Christmas. This is the first time ever in my life I knew this was right. I mean really right. How often does that ever happen? I have no idea because this is a first for me and it is wonderful and liberating.
What did I do to have this happen? Not much really, except accept and acknowledge what I am doing. I am looking forward to whatever happens from here on because I am ready.
Has anyone else have or had similar experiences?
Something happened at work today that got me thinking about the way people communicate with each other. I’m in this position for a short time so it doesn’t really affect me one way or the other because I get to leave, but a colleague got reamed over a mistake. On one hand I could understand why the boss was angry but what I don’t get is the manner in which it was handled. The person was so upset that it took them the rest of the day to be consoled and still they left work feeling quite distraught.
I have been in a few work place situations where the environment was unpleasant. It got to the point where I had to leave despite trying to work things out. It didn’t matter the person who created the situation [not me by the way] could not see what they were doing or what they had done. They couldn’t or rather wouldn’t acknowledge the problem they caused. It is not very conducive to work in and the stress one is put under does take a toll mentally and physically.
What is it with people in authority – be it from CEO to coordinator – who treat people with such disregard? I know it’s not everyone in these positions, but a large majority have issues. If we were to do a psychological profile on these individuals, what would we find? Does it go back to the ‘cave man’ psyche where domination was the only way to communicate and putting people down gives them some sort of feeling of gratification? I will never understand people like that.
I have to admit it does make me angry. What right does these individuals have to treat others with disrespect? People makes mistakes. Move on. Get over it. To err is human. I think they have forgotten that saying. If more people treated each other with respect, can you imagine what kind of world we would be living in? It would be nice, but let’s face it, the human psyche does not work that way. And like I mentioned earlier, this psychological attribute has been around for thousands of years.
Having a position of authority does not give one the right to treat people badly.